The Things We Carry

by Stefani on 14-April-2009

There's always that point, at the park or at a dinner gathering, or at the end of a long day, when the grown ups in the room shake their heads at the boundless, never tiring enthusiasm of the children present and say, "I don't now where they get the energy."

I think I've got it figured out… 

They have all that energy because they have fresh new bodies, of course, but I think for another and more important reason too. 

They have all that energy because they carry so little to weigh them down. 

Bridge (Boy Made)

Us grown ups carry expectations, responsibility, worry, plans, the weight of our decisions, the potential of the future, hopes, fears, longings, bank balances, agendas, schedules, and so much more… the weight of the world. I mean if that isn't enough to make you want to sit down I don't know what is. 

Kids though, they rarely hold anything but this moment, RIGHT NOW, in their hands. 

Bridge (Man Made)

They walk without caring where they will end up. 

The create with out worrying too much about the end result. 

His Ship

They run, not because they are concerned with the numbers on the scale or their cholesterol count, but because it feels good to have the wind in your face and your muscles at your command. 

And even though I can never quite put down all that I'm carrying and be a child again, unencumbered, I think it is a gift of the highest order that I get these daily, insistent, never ceasing reminders to let go now and then, if only for a little while. 

Tree House

Colleen April 14, 2009 at 6:42 am

Thank you for this small bit of inspiration this day!
I needed that!

E. Lindsey Hornkohl April 14, 2009 at 7:11 am

Yes, but you see, they can be so carefree because Mom and Dad carry the weight for them…and they do it so gladly!

But what’s my excuse if I don’t have kids?

Sarah April 14, 2009 at 7:12 am

Every day you make me want to be a mom! 🙂

Sarah Jackson April 14, 2009 at 7:16 am

Oh man. I needed that one today. Thank you. I’m going to try and put down some of the load today and let it go.

Kobey April 14, 2009 at 7:40 am

I think you are right… and here I thought it was my twin sized diaper bag and an overloaded purse.

kristin April 14, 2009 at 7:41 am

thank you.

TheresaB April 14, 2009 at 7:41 am

Wow, did I need that reminder! Thank you so much.

Kelly April 14, 2009 at 7:41 am

This is just so beautiful –

Mama_Amethyst April 14, 2009 at 7:46 am

Thanks for the refreshing thoughts.

Karen April 14, 2009 at 7:48 am

Beautiful post! Wonderful inspiration these days when I’m feeling especially weighed down — thanks for this 🙂

Annika April 14, 2009 at 7:56 am

Oh, yes yes yes!

Our Little Love Nest April 14, 2009 at 7:59 am

You make me love being a mom and at the same time want to be a 10 year old! xo

Stefani April 14, 2009 at 8:06 am

ha!!! Well it could be that too 🙂

Stefani April 14, 2009 at 8:07 am

I look at my boys all the time and think how much I’d like to have it all to do over, knowing what I know now 🙂

Sam April 14, 2009 at 8:07 am

That was so beautiful. Thank you for that perfect reminder 🙂

J.T. April 14, 2009 at 8:21 am

Well said! It is sad how as adults we lose that ability to just…BE. Luckily God blesses us with children to help remind us to not take life too seriously, live vibrantly, love fully, and PLAY!

melissa April 14, 2009 at 9:52 am

you’re a good mom. thanks for helping us to be good moms.

Kerry April 14, 2009 at 10:33 am


minnesota:madre April 14, 2009 at 10:46 am

Thank you. I love it when I read something that feels so true!

Kelly April 14, 2009 at 10:52 am

wow! awesome post and so true.

Sherry April 14, 2009 at 11:04 am

Thank you! It is so true isn’t it! Seeing my six year old girl outside completely enveloped in her own little world playing with dirt and rocks…. It reminds me of ME at six. The feeling is still there even if I can’t be six again.

Oh, and that picture of the tree house… maybe the best I’ve ever seen.

laughingfamily April 14, 2009 at 12:28 pm

You are exactly right. Is it possible to bottle their energy, and keep it handy for those heavy burden days? I could just pop open the top, take a swig, and have the amazingly positive outlook of my 4 year old? April 14, 2009 at 1:05 pm

A wonderful reminder about the beauty of freedom – thanks!


Lucia April 14, 2009 at 1:15 pm

Wonderful, thoughtful post and is that your treehouse?! Wow!

Cassandra April 14, 2009 at 3:43 pm

Thanks for the gorgeous words and photos (that ship!) I dropped my “bags” outside as I walked in the front door this evening. It’s been a heavy day, and I want to have a light evening with my family… I’m thinking I’ll do some yoga this evening, not because I’m counting calories, but because it feels good…

Lia April 14, 2009 at 7:12 pm

What a beautiful post and beautiful photos!

Em April 14, 2009 at 7:16 pm

You are so right! I am constantly carrying things I need to put down… I think I need to run around more and leave some things sitting by the park bench to pick up again later perhaps.

Dawn April 14, 2009 at 8:39 pm

That tree house rocks!!

Anne April 14, 2009 at 10:00 pm

Perfect thoughts and photos; maybe we need to lighten our load a bit.

miss aimee April 15, 2009 at 5:37 am

amazing! thank you.

Thimbleina April 15, 2009 at 6:41 am

Great post, it really made me think, great observations.

I did think that my kids were secretly stealing my energy 🙂

jackie April 15, 2009 at 7:55 am

just show me where the stash and dump bin is and i’ll gladly shed some baggage. this is the perfect post for spring, kind of like spring cleaning of the psyche!

nicola April 15, 2009 at 10:25 am

ditto, ditto, ditto. well said. i have been thinking about this and blogging about it a lot, too.

Melissa April 15, 2009 at 12:27 pm

Golly, how high is that tree house? My sons would love that! How did you attach the two by fours for the ladder? I can see my boys spending a lot of time “batching it” in a tree house in the tree tops!

Stefani April 15, 2009 at 12:29 pm

Oh I SO wish that we could claim that tree house (of course it would scare me half to death too), but unfortunately it’s not our own. We just happened across it on a hike.

Kayla April 15, 2009 at 1:40 pm

You are an awesome mama! Thank you very much, you hold information to being a mom so close to my heart. You are definatly one of my parenting mentors, even if you don’t know me 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

jowindmill April 15, 2009 at 6:29 pm

I was just talking about this very thing, sitting with a couple of women watching our kids at the end of a full on day of play play play, and they were STILL going!! And your conclusion was mine, light souls, as feathers, and dont we need to learn to let go too. What is the word for when birds let go their feathers…moult??? Anyway, we could all learn from their lightness.
Thanks for your blog!

dottyspots April 16, 2009 at 1:15 am


So right – and very beautiful photos too. Mind you, I think we can all enjoy a day by the river in the sunshine 🙂

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