A Woman’s Place

by Stefani on 31-July-2008

I swear, I did not set up this photo.

"A Chicken For Every Pot"

Somehow, someway (read: no one is fessing up), my stock pot ended up in the back yard.

For some reason, our Sadie girl thought it was fun to stick her head in it.

I’m thinking that this, like nothing I’ve ever seen before, epitomizes the phrase, “ignorance is bliss.” She has no idea that less than a week ago, that pot held chicken noodle soup!

I told her that she’d best be careful. Folks are getting a little worried about the economy, and what with the presidential race, and the accompanying promises, it won’t be long before the speech makers take a page from Herbert Hoover’s book and start talking about a chicken for every pot in America.

MIght want to steer clear of pots, old gal.

As for me, I might be steering clear of what I thought was a safe and wholesome bit of entertainment for my boys.

They have been watching old Leave It to Beaver episodes here lately, thanks to Netflix.

Today, I let them watch one while I cleaned up a bit and got myself ready for my girl night with a fellow blog friend. (Which turned out to be completely wonderful in every way, thank you!!!)

So there I am, bustling about, towel on my head, picking up toys, wondering what happened to my other shoe, you know, the usual, when I stopped for a second to kiss my boys. All eyes were glued to my computer screen as Wally and Ward tried to start a fire in the grill for burgers.

Wally said, “Hey Dad, how come when we eat inside, mom does all the cooking, and when we eat outside, you do the cooking?”

Ward replied, “Well you know son, they say a woman’s place is in the home, and if she’s inside, I guess she might as well be in the kitchen. Besides, us men are better at rugged outdoor activities.”

Oh my.

I didn’t have to say much about that. I think my feelings were pretty self evident, seeing as how on this night, THIS woman’s place was at the Cheesecake Factory.

As far as Sadie and I are concerned, Herbert Hoover and Ward Cleaver can just stick that in their pots and cook it!
Sarah Jackson July 31, 2008 at 9:19 pm

Ward Cleaver can definitely stick it. There is so much television that we watched as kids that I won’t let my kids watch for exactly that reason, as well as the racism. My kids were watching the Flintstones and I heard something totally inappropriate and went running to turn it off. We’ve been awfully careful about the vintage tv shows ever since.

Corynne Escalante July 31, 2008 at 9:44 pm

this is too funny!

brit July 31, 2008 at 10:18 pm

Isn’t it funny to watch old shows like that now and be totally caught off guard by the sexism?

girl mice:leave the sewing to the women, you go get some trimmin?

Betsy August 1, 2008 at 3:40 am

I can only imagine how soft and doughy Ward Cleaver’s hands were when he was claiming to be better at “rugged outdoor activities.” Wasn’t he a businessman?
My daughter recently brought Disney’s Peter Pan home from the library and in the “bonus programming” section, the woman who played Tinkerbell talks proudly about how the directors all told her to look and act “disgusted” when she saw the size of her hips reflected in a mirror for the first time. Tell me, what on earth would be the point of including a scene like that in a children’s film? I was ranting for days afterwards about the audacious stupidity of some men.

Bah August 1, 2008 at 5:16 am

What Ward didn’t know, is that June was inside adding a “special ingredient” to his green bean casserole.

erin August 1, 2008 at 5:18 am

i had a similar incident recently with jane’s math tutor spouting off something so sexist that it is still bothering me. and i think he was trying to promote independent women and it just didn’t come out right. ugh. the girls and i had a long talk that night about how they can do whatever they want – no one can stop them. it’s a constant lesson for both boys and girls.

misschris August 1, 2008 at 5:39 am

oh my. On the up side, we watched those shows as well and didn’t turn out all bad. I don’t feel scarred by Leave it to Beaver or Happy Days (although sometimes I use the term ‘getting frisky’, which cracks me up every time.) The TV isn’t nearly as influential as mom and dad are… thank goodness! xoxo Cheesecake Factory, yum…

Sarah August 1, 2008 at 5:52 am

June and Ward crack me up. We were watching one night and when Ward came home from work and June asked him to talk to the Beav he said “Oh June, do I have to scold the Beaver right now? I just got home.” LOLOL

Crystal August 1, 2008 at 6:36 am

Hahaha! My, my, how things have changed.

Cassandra August 1, 2008 at 6:52 am

I’m glad that my children already know otherwise. My husband stays home with my girls while I go to work! And he’s often the one who makes our dinner so I can spend quality time playing with my babies. Wonder what Ward would have to say about that? 😉

Cassandra August 1, 2008 at 6:52 am

oh yes, and the chicken pictures is awesome!

Alicia A. August 1, 2008 at 6:54 am

My mil has this cookbook that was her mom’s. In the front of it there are home-keeping tips and there are a bunch about how to keep you man happy. It lists stuff like: make sure the children are bathed, comb your hair and freshen up your make up before he comes home. let him relax while you finish clean up dinner. don’t nag. it cracks me up!

(I’m going to have to dig that up next time we visit…)

Cathi August 1, 2008 at 7:15 am

Oh, yuck — to think of that show and others of its ilk influencing children now? Incredible! That said, kids are a lot smarter than I think we give them credit for — and probably realize they’re watching something that doesn’t bear any relation to present day … one hopes!

Julie @ Letter9 August 1, 2008 at 7:58 am

Great post, Stefani. Oh, that Ward. He’s always saying such dumb things.

Mama Urchin August 1, 2008 at 8:52 am

I think my mom has the same Betty Crocker cookbook as Alicia’s mother-in-law. It say that “there is no better way to make your man happy than to bake him a pie.”

heather August 1, 2008 at 9:45 am

i’m pretty sure ward cleaver never did anything rugged. you are so funny.

we haven’t ordered that show yet but have made our way through several seasons of the andy griffith show. it’s a little bit (just a bit) safer on the whole social context issue… 😉 have a great weekend!

YayaOrchid August 1, 2008 at 10:34 am

Such a funny post! I love your writing!

OMSH August 1, 2008 at 12:34 pm

That is a GREAT shot. We feed our chickens leftover chicken. We are teaching our chickens cannibalism.

Relyn August 1, 2008 at 1:32 pm

This post made me laugh. I once dated a guy who told me I reminded him of June Cleaver. I was pretty indignant, but he rushed to assure me that it was his highest compliment. Let me rush to assure you now: we did not last too much longer after that. I mean REALLY!

MadWomanMeg August 1, 2008 at 3:36 pm

Ward Cleaver can shove it. I’m amazed when I look back at the shows now to see just how sexist it all was.

LOVE the chicken with the pot. Poor thing has no idea eh?

Christine August 1, 2008 at 5:08 pm

Seriously?? That is so funny about Leave it to Beaver. Believe it or not I haven’t watched a minute of that series but just heard about it a lot. I find that the sexist views from the past are so interesting when they are played out on a t.v. show. It just goes to show how acceptable they were back then. I love your chickens and the picture with the pot is so great!

asnipofgoodness August 1, 2008 at 10:05 pm

sooooo funny, makes one think tho, love the post, keep up the great sharing. I so enjoy it!

nicole August 2, 2008 at 3:59 pm

great post! you said it for sure!

Lasso the Moon August 2, 2008 at 6:24 pm

Really funny. Just when you thought it was safe…
Love the chicken in the pot.

Ellie - Petalplum August 2, 2008 at 11:05 pm

I continue to believe that the wonderful thing about raising boys (in particular) is that we can teach them, and encourage them to understand about this sort of behaviour, and not to continue to perpetuate it themselves.
It’s so hard, isn’t it, to choose what to expose them to; that balance between what to hide and what to tell.

Hope you had a lovely cheesecake night out. (I had a girls’ night last night. No kids!).

Rebecca August 3, 2008 at 6:33 am

Love the chicken picture! and I always thought the old shows were better than some of the newer ones (with all that backtalk and even cartoons with lots of flesh hanging out)! Thanks for a great blog, I just started reading and am really enjoying it.

michelle August 4, 2008 at 4:40 am

Sadie’s coloring is so pretty!

Mom22 August 4, 2008 at 6:20 am

Love it! Ya know, as much as I enjoy being home and wouldn’t want it any other way, I certainly don’t want to be told it’s “where my place is.” Then the rebel in me would come out (and I’d probably head to the Cheesecake Factory too!). LOL! 🙂

Berlinswhimsy August 4, 2008 at 9:04 pm

Isn’t it interesting how those old shows flow along just fine and then all of a sudden the gap in society’s norms are all so apparent?! We have found this while watching old Shirley Temple movies—-a lot of explaining seems to follow the movie! But it’s all good—-a great opportunity to explain the change in family dynamics society…

Your girl night sounded like so much fun—oh I miss those! I wish I was closer!

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