A Date With My Oldest

by Stefani on 29-April-2009

I've said before, that my boys don't care much for planned "dates." They don't like splitting up. That is, of course, unless it is their own idea. 

There was going to be a lecture in town, put on by a local entomology group, about moths and other nighttime bugs. My younger two had no interest whatsoever, but my young lepidopterist/lepidopterologist was all over it. 

Our night, in a word? Refreshing. 

It was supremely refreshing to drive with only one boy in the car –  to actually get to talk, for a long period of time, with just him. 

We learned that traffic has its benefits. 

It was refreshing to walk in the gardens at dusk, just after a rain and hold hands, and just be in the quiet, together. 


Fading Beauty

After the Rain

We learned that rain makes a garden all twinkly magical. 

It was refreshing to watch my man in his element – which just so happens to be a room full of white haired ladies and gents who love bugs. Little old ladies filled him up on banana bread and gave him cuttings from their butterfly attracting plants. Little old men filled him up with stories of strange and wonderful bugs. 


We learned that you can find friends in the strangest places. 

It was refreshing to walk out to the lily pad pond in the dark with the spry old groundskeeper who grows key lime trees in his backyard.

Lily Pads 

He let us scoop up some tadpoles to take home, and he told us that when the frogs stop singing it's because a snake is near. He twinkled ever so slightly when the croaking grew silent and my boy shuddered. 

We learned that being outdoors at night gives you goosebumps in the most delicious kind of way. 

On the way home we put the windows down and turned the radio up and sang our hearts out, and I had to laugh. 

When I was a girl, dreaming up my perfect date with Prince Charming, I never imagined it would be like this. 
Amber April 29, 2009 at 9:12 am

I’m glad you enjoyed your date. And I will say that I never understood how easy being with one child could be, until I had two of my own. It’s great to have a chance to connect on a one-on-one basis every once in a while.

And I would shudder when the frogs were silent, too. I don’t like snakes one bit.

Rebecca April 29, 2009 at 9:30 am

what a great date!

Robin (rsislandcrafts) April 29, 2009 at 9:35 am

What a fun and refreshing nite out. I love spending one on one time with the kids. You never know what you might learn.

Anna April 29, 2009 at 9:40 am

so special!

Janice April 29, 2009 at 9:48 am

That is such an amazing sweet report of a beautiful evening. I am SO blessed sometimes that I only have one at home – I get those times with my little guy all the time. Yep, I’m one lucky gal. 🙂

Michelle April 29, 2009 at 10:04 am

What a special treat for you both! I love solo dates with each my boys. It’s funny & wonderful how individual they really are when they’re out in the world without their brothers…and even more wonderful how they can’t wait to get home to tell each other all about it!

Thanks for sharing!

PS Looking forward to downloading May’s Book of Days tonight!!

Cristie April 29, 2009 at 10:06 am

What a fabulous time!

Ansley April 29, 2009 at 10:34 am

what a fun night! I love having one on one with my prince also…(other than just being home one on one!)

Julie April 29, 2009 at 10:58 am

How nice to get to spend a little one-on-one time with your kiddos. 🙂

Sarah Jane April 29, 2009 at 11:09 am

Fantastic! Thanks so much for your blog! It’s often a highlight of the day!

Cassandra April 29, 2009 at 11:59 am

It sounds like the PERFECT date. How lucky you are to have a bevy of such handsome gentlemen!

Jill April 29, 2009 at 12:02 pm

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Ginny April 29, 2009 at 12:06 pm

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Hannah April 29, 2009 at 12:08 pm

Raindrops on roses!

I love guessing where you’ve been. Lady Bird Center? Mayfield? Zilker? Hmmmm …

Sounds like great fun.

Old Red Barn Co. April 29, 2009 at 12:57 pm

This post brought tears to my eyes. I don’t know why. I just did.

Stephanie April 29, 2009 at 12:59 pm

What a lovely memory!

Kerry April 29, 2009 at 1:00 pm

Oh Stefani, what a lucky girl you are! (And of course, your boys are lucky too!) How beautiful. Your stories of your boys always make me look forward to the new stages I will reach with my little guy.

Kelly April 29, 2009 at 2:26 pm

Tearing up, this is so lovely!

Lia April 29, 2009 at 2:29 pm

What a lovely evening. I’ll have to try going on a “date” with each of my boys. We split them up often enough, but I don’t think we’ve done this sort of thing just yet. Thanks for the inspiration!

And how cute of him! Must be an old soul…

Julie Alvarez April 29, 2009 at 2:38 pm

So, so sweet and precious…

SpiderWomanKnits April 29, 2009 at 3:29 pm

Just so precious! I wish my little man would still hold my hand, he’s only six but just isn’t into that anymore 🙁 That is the part that stuck with me the most despite your entire post being just lovely.

Sarah M April 29, 2009 at 5:55 pm

ahh! What a SWEET post! Thank you!
Sarah M

Christine April 29, 2009 at 7:13 pm

What a wonderful date! Your boys sound so sweet. 🙂

AJ April 29, 2009 at 7:27 pm

Such a sweet time to be had. I hope you get more dates like that.

Stefani April 29, 2009 at 7:34 pm

You hit the nail on the head… it was a treat to see a different side of him – the one he dons when he’s not playing the role of pack leader.

It was a treat too to see his enthusiasm and generosity when he returned to his little pack.

Good stuff.

Stefani April 29, 2009 at 7:34 pm

Aren’t I? All that time I worried about whether I would find “the one” and it turned out I found FOUR of ’em!

Stefani April 29, 2009 at 7:43 pm

We should make it a game… “Where in Texas are those crazy Blue Yonder kids?”
You might be on to something here 🙂

Stefani April 29, 2009 at 7:44 pm

Aw, honey!
I know… they get to me all the time, with all their sweetness and growing up and stuff.
I really had no idea that motherhood would be an exercise in trying to keep my eyes dry for just one blasted day!

Stefani April 29, 2009 at 7:45 pm

Precisely…. and old soul.
And also a little big for his britches. 🙂

Stefani April 29, 2009 at 7:46 pm

Maybe it’s just a phase. I’m going to hope for that. One of these days I’ll be he surprises you and takes up your hand.
I hope it’s one day soon!

Kelly April 29, 2009 at 9:04 pm

What a perfect evening out! And so wonderfully captured by you!

kate April 29, 2009 at 9:40 pm

oh yes. the moments when I have really good alone time with my oldest jack – it’s so flipping delicious and sweet. Why can’t he stay that way when we are all together?

VintagePleasure April 30, 2009 at 1:31 am

As they get older those boys of yours will date you loads. My girls were the same when they were young but now the older girls just love one on one time.I just wish there was more hours in the day.

Lisa Clarke April 30, 2009 at 6:11 am

Your flower photos are fabulous! Just gorgeous.

It sounds like such a special time. I was just thinking yesterday that I’d enjoy a little one-on-one time with my oldest. Isn’t it great, that as they get older and their interests mature, you can just talk to them, and really enjoy the conversation on an adult level? Not that little kids aren’t entertaining to chat with, but I think you know what I mean, right?

J.T. April 30, 2009 at 6:14 am

What a special time for both of you! Lovely pictures as well. Thanks for sharing this great idea (will remember this for the future for my own kids).

elissa April 30, 2009 at 1:54 pm

again you do it with your photos and words and well, the magic you have with those little men. thanks again for always sharing with us.

renee May 1, 2009 at 6:29 am

How sweet. I think i need to take my boy on a date. I’ve been talking about it for a while…time to make time.

Suzanne May 1, 2009 at 7:21 am

You lucky girl!

Relyn May 1, 2009 at 7:51 am

I love that your boys don’t like to be separated. It’s fantastic that they already know how important a brother can be. It’s actually amazing that they already cherish each other. What a life-long blessing that will be.

Gretchen Skovron May 1, 2009 at 5:01 pm

wonderful post! So breathtaking.

Sarah May 2, 2009 at 3:35 pm

that sounds wonderful! my husband just finished school for the year and i really want to get some one on one time with each kid while he has some time now. and the event sounded great too! my husband and eldest had the same type of experience at a robot club where we used to live.

Jennifer May 3, 2009 at 10:47 pm

OK, you’re going to make me cry!! My son would love that kind of date, too. How lucky you both are.

Dawn Suzette May 7, 2009 at 9:23 am

Love this. I have a little girl bug lover that would get along with that crowd just fine!!
Thanks for sharing your awesome date!

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