Tom Man

by Stefani on 23-April-2010

My middle son told me a while back that he had decided I was a “Tom man…. You know, like a tom boy, but all grown up.”

I’ve been humming Peggy Lee’s “I’m a Woman” ever since. Only in my head it goes, “Cuz I’m a Tom Man. T-o-m-m-a-n…”

Anyhow, he declared this because my knife is bigger than his 🙂 And probably a whole host of other reasons too. I get my hair done about twice a year. I don’t do nails. I wear jewelry only on Sundays, save for my wedding ring. I like bugs… accept roaches.

On the other hand, I cry over oatmeal commercials and I like the “sappy love parts” of movies. I worry over things like whether or not everyone has on underwear before we leave the house. I get excited by vintage table cloths, family photos, and pretty pictures in magazines. I “chatterbox” with friends (their phrase, not mine).

I told my little man that I’m one very lucky mama. I got to experience childhood as a little girl, and now I’m getting to experience it all over again through the eyes of little boys.

I sure hope that they are as blessed one day because you know, I think it would be awfully dang fun to see my grown up sons braiding hair, dressing dollies and holding up their little pinkies at a tea party. 🙂

Missy K April 23, 2010 at 10:38 am

As a fellow mother of boys, I’ve never thought of the blessing that way– getting to have experienced childhood as a girl and now with my little guys– wonderful!

jjillinois April 23, 2010 at 11:40 am

I love it! I’m a tom-man too. My daughter is such a girly girl. My husband learned to braid my daughter’s hair after my son was born and now he gets wonderful comments on her pigtails.

Love your posts!

Stefani April 30, 2010 at 12:54 pm

Awwww… now see, that’s the one thing that I really have not gotten over about not having a girl…. seeing the new side that she would surely bring out in her papa.
I think he’s going to make a wonderful Granddad!

Tai April 23, 2010 at 1:35 pm

That’s great…Tom Man! Way to be a well rounded woman – what a great example for your young men ;)!

Kerry April 23, 2010 at 4:27 pm

Ha ha, I love this. I grew up with three brothers and one sister and now I have 3 daughters and one son so I think I’m going in the opposite direction. I grew up thinking girly stuff was silly and now I’m loving all the frills and pigtails.

Stefani April 30, 2010 at 12:57 pm

Funny how we adapt, isn’t it? I was never a terribly frilly girl, but I can’t say that I was a real tom boy either. I certainly did not know nearly as much as I do now about bugs and creek critters!

lolo April 23, 2010 at 6:35 pm

Stefani….how cute!!! I know how you feel, I run around in jeans with holes in the knees…dirt in my fingernails {one of the few women in california who has NEVER gotten her nails done!}, chasing bugs, carving with boy scout knives, and wading in mountain streams! Life is great this way, don’t ya think?!

Angie April 27, 2010 at 11:41 pm

Thank you, Stefani! That is an AMAZING perspective and as a sibling of sisters only, and a mother of 2 boys, I have felt the same way, and never been able to express it in those terms. It IS a chance to experience a second, completely different childhood. And it is a GIFT! My daughter and I read your blog regularly, and my daughter often makes the comment, “Mom, of everyone that we read, THEY’RE the most like us!!” 🙂 Thanks again, we have followed you to learn more about butterflies, owls, life in the creek, ect! You are a blessing!

Stefani April 30, 2010 at 12:56 pm

Oh thank you Angie! What a treat it is to hear that we have kindred spirits following along our journeys. You two are a blessing right back 🙂

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